Instead of focussing on outcomes what if we focus on how we showed up for our decisions?
Consider the poker player that has a 90% chance of winning a hand.
They’re smart, they know the odds, so they go all in.
Much to their surprise, they lose everything (because there’s a 10% chance they might).
Should they judge themselves harshly because of the outcome?
Wouldn’t you have made the same decision?
Instead, what if they were proud of how they showed up knowing they made a good decision based on the information available to them at the time?
We can’t change the outcome, but we can change how we interact with it.
Good poker players know this, just ask Annie Duke.